belated thoughts on #istandbyravelry

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It’s always easier to unravel from the end

By-standers standing by standards

black-sheeping the villain

secret self-loather with overcast cheeks

swallowed by a face swollen from decades of neck ties

Money can afford ugly      those who don’t live

on patched-up pockmarked potholed public pensions

Those white men brought it upon themselves

their unravelling our whole-ing

And anyway it couldn’t be us because

a) we aren’t rich just got time for stitch & bitch

b) we got no power just our natural itch

to align ourselves with   we     us    doing the right thing

and c) we get our eye-brows plucked

skin botoxed      body kick-boxed      core strengthened

Standing by      not standing out

toe-lining      finger-pointing     picket-fencing

white solidarity


When we left the city

Home / Todmorden / Yorkshire

When we left the city

Some say it’s a bird

You want to cup it softly with both hands

beware its heart beating like a battlefield

Mine is a kite     soaring fiercely

too fast he said    like everything

There’s a different spirit here

fluffing into our bedroom window

like shadows of lace lingering in the wind



Spring Equinox

Nature / relationships

Spring Equinox

After 5 hours at the A & E        what’s left of purpose?

Trying to keep the wolf from the door

sometimes I can feel it travelling down walls

I took the recycling out

between insurance policies    bank statements

an essay about greenhouse gas emissions

I tightened up like a nut in winter

I don’t need to be spared

What matters     that I care    am there

eyes wide open    that I bat an eyelid

keep my eyes at horizon

see things squarely into the storm

Sheffield Botanical Gardens - Rosarium 2

Loneliness grows waves then oceans


Loneliness grows waves then oceans


Und die Einsamkeit wächst in mir wie eine riesige Welle

aus dem Meer meiner Vergangenheit” – Chris Anderson (unpublished letter)

We have grappled    we have battled

have searched    asked    listened out

We have celebrated    cherished    laughed too loud together

We have kept each other sleepless

We have avoided    ignored    shut out

written    waltzed    wasted as only lovers can

who don’t see

We have tried and given up    reached out    closed in

We have hurt    dared    we have lost

Washed away on a wave of floating    flying    gliding

never this: leaping into the possibility

Between the Years, 2017


oak leaves xs

On the tumulus sun rays reach the tops of twisted trees

drawing creamy lines between ancient oaks

like a spider’s web.

Beneath lichen-licked twigs

leaves remain frozen in dying

their silence striking a chord on my heart.


Days I cannot grasp blur past

like a landscape in a blizzard

tugging me off-course.

Snow casts darkness before laying to rest on Earth

muffled by the density of compact clouds

I move past shadows that are here to stay.


Darkness peaks on that last day

dripping from near-bare trees’ crumbled leaves

hollowing creases into the faces of roots.

I start digging holes into the night

tearing open the thickness of clouds with callous claws

allowing a white flag of seagulls to cross the defence line.

cross-cultural conversations


Behold That Tree 2

white EU migrant woman & black Caribbean British Canadian man

‘What is I beheld?’ ‘Past tense from I behold.’

‘But what’s that in non-Shakespearean-English?’

‘It’s real English. It’s like (pauses) I behold

that tree’ (gestures with his arm somewhere outside)

‘Like I see that tree?’

‘Like Fuck! Check this tree out!’

Behold that man.


Travelling / Uncategorized


I wish I could start writing about Brussels all over again. I wonder whether

I’d still have to explain that it was actually Mechelen we went to and never

Brussels though we did have a golden afternoon in Brussels that ended on a high

look-out – the city, framed by dirty baby-boy blue with pink stains in it, to our

feet. Ashen but ready to rise as we walked back down into it. Also, I would

like to mention the golden masonry around every single of the lavish guildhalls

encircling the grandiose market square upright and proud like the men that

once walked in and out of these into freedom over the tired scarred backs of black

men and women. And I would like to ask why the statues in this city are of black

marble and naked children. I wouldn’t mind retelling the story of how if felt to

touch the cold snout of the watchful dog that didn’t feel cold because it had been

rubbed golden – the real stuff. Fortune. Fleeting, therefore ever more precious.

Not mine to own and so easy to obtain, if only. The other big square once be-

longed to the river Senne until it fell into disdain. So it was covered up, then,

by a busy street: everything valuable hidden away and no gold outside the old

Stock Exchange which is now closed despite stairs as long and wide as a beach,

pillars that could carry the city’s dreams. They had to carry the city’s sorrows

after last year’s bomb attacks – people had chosen to gather here above a buried

river on chewing gum clotted tarmac that had been reclaimed from cars only two

years previously by rebellious picnicers. It had seen blankets, bunting, barbecues

and water guns that have made way for armoured vehicles, maybe temporarily.

We made our way to Mechelen later and it was good not to see guns and stay in a

friend’s friendly house with a frozen garden that hosts chicken, a raspberry hedge,

a pool and occasionally kingfishers and woodpeckers. Also a cat, one night, as

black as the other, unfrightened by the thin ice beneath its paws. This is Fear Age

and we will stay strong, too. We will be pillars to each other, here where we find

ourselves in a room of five languages – though it was me who hadn’t thought of

Gujarati until reminded and the graveness of that grinds my heart into bonemeal.

Staying strong and looking my own blindness in the eye. Willing to see the hidden.

Un-covering the mis-take; dare getting up and re-taking it. In Mechelen they have

uncovered the River Melaan that had been filled with earth a hundred years ago

and turned into a car park. They have opened a museum in the old barracks from

which over twenty-five thousand people were deported by train to Ausschwitz. A

train carriage still stands outside the museum today. It’s easy to look. But it’s

never easy. That’s what I would like to write about our trip to Brussels last week.

honouring a place of dark

Stories / Tower Blocks / Uncategorized


black eye

now that wall I remembered

a face of a young woman

chiselled out of plaster

revealing a matrix of red bricks

tearing her out

wind tearing her hair apart

another wall in another city

same not-quite white wall

large black eye traced

with carbon paper like

mascara smudged down a cheek

white wet puffy

what happened

before carelessness played havoc

carelessness played



don’t play with fire

we all blamed the girl for starting it

thought her mean enough

to exclude her from our play

to burn her with nettles

when the house burnt down

they left

I never liked her anyway

but the flames didn’t eat away

that shame

lost things…

Stories / Unexpected

margate-british-library-3_xsSomething has shifted. It began recently on a Sunday in September when I woke up from thoughts of doubt and betrayal, feeling perfectly uneasy, first, then angry which was almost a relief. Since then things kept changing. Every new day another leaf fallen, the tree a bit barer, the light a degree warmer, the air a degree cooler, the atmosphere a degree clearer and my thoughts, too, sometimes at least. Yesterday, I forgot my scarf at home and a gruffy northeasterly wind was teasing my neck all day me with pale bony fingers. Later, on my way home I forgot my hat on the train. My warm wooly hat made in Scotland lost on a Kentish train. The last thing I know is that it was on my head, proudly, when I entered the overheated carriage. It must have fallen into a small gap when I took it off as I sat down. I sometimes wish I could find a small gap to fall through – where do things go from there? Walking through their yesterday? Unravelling back to their idea?

The Polish cleaner with a face as warm as a birthday wish understood exactly how this hat was the most precious thing I will own this winter and he assured me that losing it was a good sign: if you loose something today you’ll be blessed with luck tomorrow. I already felt blessed by his friendliness – he escorted me from the platform to the train officer on duty by the gate who took my lost hat more than suitably serious. He even phoned someone at St. Pancras to make sure the cleaners there would look out for my hat. Then he made me write down my name and number like a police detective preparing to track a missing child. He spread more friendliness by consoling me that these things happen to us: we’re travelling, chatting, laughing, dosing off and suddenly arriving where all is momentarily forgotten. My blessing: men in uniform that understand and try to evoke miracles.

I’d come back from a trip to Margate; it seems I always go to Margate in the autumn. I also always seem to go back to the same cafe there: I was relieved to see they still have vases with fresh roses on the two tables in the alcoves as they’ve always had on previous visits. I always sit at one of these: a high table joined by two bar chairs with cast-iron feet making them impossible to move. The waitress seemed new but nothing else had changed; the coffee was still a bit too expensive, the food still a bit unimaginative and I knew they’d let me sit for hours at a table with fresh roses overlooking the little harbour where nothing happens during low tide except for the Tracy Enim neon sign slowly brightening up against the darkening sky. Even that hasn’t changed. I exhale, yearning for that cast-iron steadiness. Out there right by the sea you couldn’t even trace the change of season because there are no trees, no leaves – just changing tides, dawn, day, dusk, night and the same again.

But there were surprises, of course. The Turner Gallery was not very open – only a wedge to let in a trickle of visitors who were happy enough that they weren’t able to get beyond the entrance hall because staff were setting up a new exhibition. Instead we were left with a mesmerising installation by Yinka Shonibare called British Library. Celebrating the contributions of migrants to British culture and society. There they were: stacked, batiked books in high shelves covering the whole of three long walls. Yotam Ottolenghi, Natalie Bennett, Bisi Alimi, Shami Chakrabarti, Yoko Ono, Prince Charles, other royals, writers, artists, politicians, campaigners, thinker, doers including Nigel Farrage who rested next to Karl Marx. Standing surrounded by these walls of gilded migrant power was a bit overwhelming – I suddenly remembered how I once, years ago, got totally lost in a beautiful sentence by Nadine Gordimer that proved to be so overpowering that when I finally reached the full stop I knew exactly how many words it contained, which ones I particularly liked, which ones I didn’t understand but I couldn’t say anything about their combined meaning.


Standing there now, a lost migrant in a little seaside town that unsurprisingly voted ‘out’ on 23 June but surprisingly made space for artists in their midst that contradict: like Raychel Mount who built the Listening Wall on one of Margate’s ancient arteries – as a Living Wall because of an abundance of flowers sprawling vertically out of the wall like champaign bubbling out of a bottle. After Yinka Shonibare’s walls of awe-inspiring migrants now a wall to heal divisions exposed by the referendum. A wall to spread love or share grief and anger. Of all things possible: walls to connect and bring together. I was confused, having grown up in a country divided by a 1400 km long wall of concrete enforced by barbed wire, mine strips and deep-seated ideological believes; a wall we were only too keen to break down and lose forever. But then, without walls there’d be no houses and nothing to put windows in, nothing to put roofs on, nothing to break down or climb over in order to discover what lies behind. So back to the Polish truth: you lose one thing and win something else instead and maybe that cleaner is somewhere on the shelves of the British Library piece as well.

Back in London my hat hasn’t reappeared, yet: I went back to Stratford International a day later and was told by a female staff member behind a glass counter to go to Cannon Street Customer Services. That’s where I’ve come from now – it wasn’t open on a Sunday. Shut and shutters down it didn’t radiate any of that friendliness i felt from staff at my train station. But I’ll go back. I’ve not totally lost my ability to trust the power of miracles because thoughts of doubt and betrayal are too simple a choice. I’m beginning to enjoy the deepening of my relationship with my hat and know, no matter whether I’ll find it or not,it’ll be precious to me.



relationships / Unexpected

A friend has offered me her space on the Sussex coast while she and her partner are travelling. A space with a cabin and a caravan, chicken and greenhouses, fruit trees and wood pigeons, a kitchen and WiFi. A space to escape from a hectic summer with a few blows – the shock of Brexit, the discomfort of a back injury, the uncertainties of my relationship that’s now come to a sudden full-stop in mid-air. A space to land, take a deep breath and maybe just take some space… Space feels like a very comforting gift – another one, recently, was the discovery of ‘pantuns’, a Malaysian verse form with a fairly rigid structure that offers safety to my unkempt mind. The two brought together with a pinch of freedom lead to something like this:

wale stone

on the edge of the old dark

watching incense exhaling last wisps of smoke skywards

yesterday the sky disappeared with the sea into a white blur

so it’s possible then

a space between sky and sea


yesterday sky and sea smudged into whiteness

like white noise drowning out sounds

the white space between sky and sea

blurring my memories


white noise drowning out sounds

a swing in a walled garden

the only memory I’m left with for company

alone up on a hill above the road from Eastbourne to Brighton


a swing in a walled garden

where wood pigeons bemoan dreams buried too deep

up on a hill above the valley

cars drifting by on the main road, unknowing


wood pigeons bemoan that space

where day and night blur into a turquoise glow

where we drifted, unknowing

a space filled with the breath of the in-between-creatures


day and night blur into a glow

a space, blue, blurry, timeless

the breath of in-between-creatures cool on my skin

after the day’s heat and comforting before the old dark


a space, white, hazy, horizonless

when did I stop feeling, like a knife gone blunt

the day’s heat, the old dark

when did I cross that threshold


when did I stop feeling my own sadness

buried too deep under grey motionless void

when did I cross that threshold

a rock, round, smooth with a crack like the Meridian line


from grey motionless emptiness

watching the incense exhaling its last wisps of smoke

it crossed the threshold, skywards

so it’s possible, then